Sunday, January 25, 2015

10 Things I would tell my younger self:

1. Don't sacrifice your own plans for maybe with someone else. If you were important to them, maybe would never have been used. Time is limited. Be alone and enjoy.

2. Save. Money is important. For being independent. For being secure. Save a little in the beginning but save.  It's ok if you don't have that wow heels but it's not ok to be stressed about money every month. It's not ok to live cheque to cheque. It's not cool.

3. Make your home comfortable and have friends over more. It's ok if they mess your house. Don't be a cleanliness freak. Let go.

4. Travel more. Don't sacrifice travel plans for work. Work will always be there. You are not indispensable at work. No one is. Office and the work won't collapse. Don't cancel travel plans. 

5.  Don't waste your time and emotions on a man who has you on stand by mode. We are meant to be special. We are not meant to be an option. 

6. Which leads to the next point. Let go faster. Don't live in the past so much. Learn to move on faster. Life is so much lighter if you don't carry around all your baggage. 

7. Learn to identify toxic relationships. Lots of Friends, colleagues, lovers and family may end up taking more out of you than they should be. They may end up pulling you down instead of uplifting you. End the relationships asap. 

8. Don't smoke. It's not cool. It takes much more from you than you can imagine. Not to mention it propagates gossip in office. Stay away from smoking corners in office. 

9. Eat more home cooked food. Your stomach will thank you later. As you grow older, you will know what this is about. 

10. Be more active. Walk more, cycle more. It gets tougher to lose weight as one gets older. 

Monday, January 12, 2015

Date a man who butters your toast

I grew up with a very clear picture of the man I'll date and then fall in love with. Doesn't talk much, hence doesn't express much. Has to be tall and rugged to look at and has to have a head full of hair. Aloof, hard from the exterior, doesn't cry at the drop of a hat, hard working, aggressive in the business world and a workaholic. He would pamper me with the best money can buy. 

While the white hairs have been increasing on my head, I have navigated myself in and out of relationships. Got my heart broken quite a few times. Realised later on in hindsight some were infatuations, some were just a ego trip and very few were love. But I would try and stay faithful to the idea of the perfect man.

Now I have finally realised what a crock of bull is the mills and boons image of what a perfect man should be! 

Be in love with a man who makes you walk inside and not on the side of the traffic. It's ok if he is short. It's ok if he is not good looking. But he will make you feel the prettiest in the world. He may be losing hair or getting pudgy in the centre but cause you are in his life he has started working out. His hands are soft, he looks straight into your eyes and cries as much as you do. He is not afraid to say I love you and doesn't mind giving you a foot massage after your long day. He liked cuddling and hugging you and loves to stay in. The things he offers money can't buy. Be in love with a man who butters your toast.