I have a lot of male friends. Some besties, some close pals, some fun buddies, some acquaintances. I’ve seen their good side and their playboy side. Maybe it’s because these men don’t feel threatened by my presence, because they see me as ‘just a friend’, not a real woman they need to impress. So they open up with me and reveal their real selves. And underneath the bad boy, the playboy, the disgusting male habits etc., they are nice men. Fun men. Men who would make good companions and probably good lovers too. Men that I can envision as a long term partner. So why is it, that they see me as ‘just a friend’? Why do men act differently with women they slot as friends and other women whom they want to impress? I’m not a boy’s girl. I don’t match the men drink for drink. I don’t slam the beers or cheer as hard as they do at the game. So why do they see me differently from women they’re into? Don’t all good relationships start with good friendships? These men depend on me for emotional advice. They bare their souls to me and their deepest secrets. But they don’t go any further. We’ve established friendship. We’ve established emotional dependency. Aren’t these the basics of any relationship? Why don’t awesome friends make girlfriend status? Is it because we know the men too well? Their secrets, their habits, their quirks. Is that what kills the potential romance? Why can’t good friends turn into girlfriends?
